WHAT IS A REAL MAN – by Dr. Charles B. Brown Part 2 – The Passive Man
[Here is some real meat and deep truth for men who have the courage to accept the challenge is what I wrote when I posted the first part of this article. The challenge still stands. I will now post some shorter excerpts, revealing some significant truths. Every man should read this whole message and take it to heart. It will be life-changing for anyone who does. – Ray E Horton]
The Passive Man
These words are inscribed on the doormat of the lonely man’s soul, “passivity welcome.” Don’t misunderstand the passive man. He’s not a three-hundred-pound couch potato with beer stains on his tee shirt whose fingers are callused from channel surfing. The passive man can be an aggressive competitor, a successful leader, a gifted performer. The passive man can make a name for himself and leave his mark on society.
Yet, for all his sound and fury, passivity rules his soul. What is passivity? Passivity is the tendency of the masculine soul to allow part of his life to remain untouched and unmoved. And the part that remains untouched and unmoved is the most important part – the hidden soul, the hurting boy, the wounded warrior, the lonely seeker, the frustrated conqueror, the disillusioned hero, the needy beggar.
A passive man hides the personal, displays the impersonal. He shrinks from transparency, gravitates toward hypocrisy. The passive man dodges what God desires – in the inner parts (Psalm 51:6). I know passive men who eat tough decisions for breakfast, but who would rather sleep on a bed of nails than un-mask their fragile egos by admitting one moral failure: I’ve sinned! One emotional need: I need you! Or one painful disappointment! I hurt!
Hides from Vulnerability
The passive man usually handles tough stuff and almost always side-steps the vulnerable stuff. Therefore, like father Adam, the passive man is forever hiding. What happens if passivity goes unchecked?
[If this intrigued you, be sure and go back and read or re-read the first installment if you haven’t already. Next installment, The Angry Man. Preview: All men are weak and look for ways to defend themselves in either attack or retreat – Ray].